Is Divorce A Sin and Is There A Way to Make It Right?
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In many countries, divorce has run rampant, and the vows of marriage have become meaningless for some. Christians are asking “Is Divorce a Sin”? Divorce itself is not the sin, but the reason for the divorce may be. Let’s read the scriptures and then discuss them for a better understanding.
Is Divorce a Sin According To The Bible?
In the book of Matthew Jesus says that a man(or woman) can have written notice of divorce, but only if one partner has been unfaithful. If you divorce for any other reason and get into another sexual relationship you are committing adultery.
What does this mean for Christians who have divorced already but now want to live for Christ? Is divorce a sin for them? There are many schools of thought on this, but I believe if you ask for forgiveness for the unlawful divorce that your sin is forgiven and God forgets it.
This does not mean once you know right from wrong that you can continue to divorce and marry over and over again. Once you have been forgiven God expects you to never do it again!
Matthew 5:31-32(New Living Translation)
“You have heard the law that says, ‘A man can divorce his wife by merely giving her a written notice of divorce.’ But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.”
This can also mean the man, not just the woman. There are no double standard rules here, just the Word of God.
Another Scripture is found in Matthew 19:3-9 (NLT)
Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him(Jesus) with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?”
Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ ”And he said,“‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
“Then why did Moses say in the law that a man could give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away?” they asked.
Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended. And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.”
Is Divorce A Sin Under Abandonment?
It seems that the men back then were more interested in getting divorces than the women and while they wanted to be free they still questioned “is divorce a sin” and wanted to know the consequences.
Jesus explains again that there must be infidelity in the marriage for one of the parties to divorce scripturally. However, there is another requirement that can be met for scriptural divorce. Let’s take a look at I Corinthians 7:15-17.
“But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases, the believing husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.
Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you?
Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.
Is Divorce A Sin When Your Spouse is An Unbeliever?
The key phrase above is “isn’t a believer”. If a non-believer chooses to abandon their partner you are to let them go and not cause trouble. God has called you to live in peace.
God also states that if you can stay with your spouse (you, being the believer), that they might become saved because of you and your Christian ways. He further states that you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you in.
In other words, if you are not being abused and just want out, you should stay and give God the chance to change the other person by helping you lead them to Christ.
Is Divorce A Sin For Spouses Being Physically Abused?
As we have discussed, getting a divorce is not the sin; it is the reason for the divorce that may be. God does not expect a man or woman to continually be under the pain and suffering of physical or mental abuse!
Is this a reason for Divorce? Not according to the scriptures, but that doesn’t mean you must stay in that relationship and be hurt. God does not want you to be beaten or threatened!
If you are being abused and the person is a non-believer, then leaving them is just. If for some unknown reason this abuser is a backsliding Christian you can leave but must not remarry or have relations with any other person.
Now before you start yelling, let me finish! In every case I’ve known in this situation, the abuser will eventually cross that line and commit adultery! When this happens you are free to divorce according to the rules that Jesus has set forth.
But until then, as you can see from the scripture above, you should continue to live in the situation the Lord has you in. It won’t be fun or easy, but God will turn things around for you. Prayer moves the hand of God and in situations like these God will come to your rescue and make a way for you to have the life and partner you want to have!
I realize this post today may not be what you wanted to hear and I’m sorry for that, but the Word of God is clear on the rules of scriptural divorce. Everyone’s situation is different and I suggest you go to God in prayer about yours and He will lead you in the correct direction.
God loves us all, no matter what we do wrong, and He loves a repentant heart and will restore us to righteousness when we ask for forgiveness.